How to Control Your ANGER The Science of Anger

 what do we have in common with the hulk when we are stuck in traffic on a Monday morning well we don't become green or strong but there's one emotion that erupts in all of our anger if you feel something like this on your bad days you've come to just the right place but holds on angry hulk also turns back into peace-loving bruce banner then how can all of us control our anger in this BLOG I'm gonna give you the science of anger and what causes it I'm also going to give you six tried and tested methods to manage your anger and finally two bonus tips right at the end so let's get going and make sure you read till the end and leave me a comment below or I will become like an angry hulk hey this is SMARTLY  LEARNER and you are reading blog let's begin

 by talking about the science behind anger when there is a mismatch between what you expect and what you get in turn maybe you get bad marks when you thought you did well your brain's reward circuit sounds an alarm activity is triggered in a small almond-shaped region in the brain called the amygdala which processes emotions of anxiety fear and anger fear and anger generate a basic stress response called flight or fight where fear makes us want to flee and anger makes us want to fight this amygdala sends a distress signal to the hypothalamus which is the command center of the body's nervous system the hypothalamus in turn signals the adrenal glands which sit on top of the kidney to release hormones like adrenaline epinephrine and norepireferen this cocktail of hormones increases our heartbeat breathing and pushes more blood to the face and floods the muscles with glucose preparing us for action but whether we actually end up punching someone depends on another part of the brain the pre-frontal cortex this is responsible for decision making and reasoning and this is where emotions are being processed in a more logical manner so if someone points a finger at us wrongly or if someone tries to take advantage of our vulnerability we lash out at them many times we are going through a mix of emotions like guilt or sorrow and we deflect these with anger now comment below and share with me what makes you angry now does anger solve your problems so if anger is a natural emotion why is it so bad according to the American psychology association anger is a natural adaptive response to threats but as plato has said very wisely there are two things a person cannot be angry at what you can control and what you cannot control and on that note let's talk about our tried and tested techniques to deal with anger and in case you're looking for techniques to deal with failure and stress then this Blog is going to help you how to control anger,

technique number one: let off steam gently just like any other emotion anger needs to be expressed but there's a right way of doing it don't shout or throw a tantrum have a conversation with your friends or your parents about why you're feeling angry this will make you feel lighter now before we continue with our list of techniques I want to give a shout out to kabuki Karnik whose lovely message got 86 likes from you and leave me a comment below 

technique number two: don't let the bottle pop author mark twain said anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than the vessel in which it is poured let's do a thought experiment to prove this pick up a glass of water right now and imagine you're holding a glass of water in your outstretched hand this glass weighs no more than 100 or 200 grams it's not heavy you can hold it for 5 minutes the problem no problem you can hold it for 15 minutes you start feeling a stretch in your arms half an hour your arm is really starting to hurt now one hour your arm is throbbing you can't hold it any more you let your arm down and the glass shatters but how do we prevent this shattering or burning let me give you a story which is 

technique number three: a homemade antidote to anger once upon a time a woman came to witty beetball with a problem my husband is very angry and always angry whenever he opens his mouth to speak he starts fighting please give him a medicine beerball was stumped but he gathered his wits and procured a small bottle for the lady this is a very special medicine he said if anyone angers your husband or he feels like fighting tell him to drink this and count to ten all the anger will immediately disappear the woman left pleased and beard will soon forgot about the matter a few weeks later this woman came back more devastated than before the medicine was working wonders she told beerball but now it's over please give me some more hearing this beard started laughing the woman was confused do you know what that medicine is he asked her no she replied that medicine is nothing other than water birbal revealed the trick is not in the medicine but in what it does since your husband's mouth is full he cannot shout and since i told him to count from 1 to 10 his mind used that time to calm itself down and now he's no longer angry mind you there's a science behind bearable simple trick of counting from one to ten in this extra time our bodies do not react according to our amygdala's fight response but allow for the logical response of the prefrontal cortex to kick in which takes about a few seconds longer to activate so don't forget to leave me a comment below on what techniques by the way you use to effectively control your anger 

technique number four: lol no really laugh out loud another great way to control your anger is to laugh it away try to find the humor in the situation by using funny Snapchat filters or crack jokes with your friends after all laughter releases endorphins that produce a feel-good effect on your mind and body 

technique number five: substitute to end dispute the substitution method is a buddhist practice that encourages us to focus on the positive aspects of a person or situation instead of the negative now let's say you're angry at the words of your brother how about you appreciate the helpful actions or motivating thoughts that he otherwise shares with you this will increase empathy and decrease anger at number six is channel your anger one thing about anger is that it fills you up with a lot of energy my last tip in controlling anger is making the best use of this creative energy a bit like lord shiva's thunder dance if you're angry because you fought with your boyfriend then go out for that long overdue run in the fresh air use your anger energy for some self-care and finally for the two bonus tips bonus tip number one is mindful meditation kind full disposition buddha was asked what have you gained from meditation he answered nothing but i have lost anger anxiety depression and insecurity this is because over time meditation decreases the size of the amygdala which processes anger and it enlarges the prefrontal cortex which helps rational thinking another practice that buddhists follow alongside meditation is loving kindness when we wish kindly upon ourselves and others may you be happy may i be healthy our mind is filled with love and positivity leaving no space for anger bonus tip number two whatever the question art is a great answer painting a picture writing a poem or even playing your guitar will give you just the outlet to process and overcome your feelings so stay happy spread kindness and keep smiling and happy learning.